The Art of Gratefulness

It’s the beginning of the week, and as we all head back to work, school, etc let’s practice gratefulness. Yes I know the world is overwhelming at times, but for some reason reflecting on what you’re grateful for, makes life just a little bit better. Lately I’ve made it a point to say out loud or write down 3 things I am grateful for, this helps calms my anxiety and keeps me from comparing my life to others.

Here are three things that I’m grateful for:

1. The ability to cherish the present moment

How often do we really stop to “smell the roses”? The ability to be present in wherever you are in life, is an amazing gift. Just being present wherever you are, allows you to be just you and only you. When you give yourself a break from worrying about the future, to just stop and think about what you’re grateful for, you open yourself up for amazing, good energy. Everyone wants good energy right?

So do what’s on your heart, date that guy, wear that crushed velvet dress, or travel to that country you’ve always wanted to go to. Be present and go for it.

2. My Amazing Support System

 

Sometimes my thoughts get to me, and I forget how amazing my support system is. To everyone that has helped me level up in my life, thank you! I honestly would not be at this point, if it we’re not for my support system. I am truly grateful for those who take time out of their day to check on me, send me crazy memes or refer business opportunities to me. THANK YOU!

There is nothing more valuable than having a strong support system, consisting of friends and family. In their own special way, each person has helped me develop into who I am now. And I like to think that I’m pretty phenomenal! I challenge you to look at those around you, and thank them if they have helped you at any point in your life. If you can, just call them, take them to lunch or send a thank you note.

 

3. My Ability to Adapt Anywhere

 

In my 25 years of life, I’ve seen some things, experienced some great and not-so-great moments, but I’m still here; present as ever. I am grateful for everything that I have experienced so far, because these experiences have shaped and molded me into a resilient woman. I know wherever I go in life, I’m going to be great. Although I’ve gone through some tough years lately, I am still rockin and rollin honey. Fear rarely resides wherever I am, I know I can adapt to any situation and environment.

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What I hoped you gained from this post, is to stop for a moment and really think about where you are in life. Whether you’re in a good or bad spot, be grateful for that shit! I mean it! I know when we’re going through tough times, it’s hard to be grateful, but you have to trust me on this one.

This week, I want you all to make it a point to write down or say out loud, three things you’re grateful for. You can share this with someone you trust or keep it to yourself, just express to the universe that you are grateful.

 

 

 

 

Well that’s all for now lovelies! Remember to be grateful this week and thank you for reading!

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Spring Country Chic with eShakti | Sponsored Post

Lovlies! How are you doing? I knowwwww, it’s been too long, I haven’t posted in two months, but fear no more, I’m BACK!

So let’s jump right in! I’m finally employed, with 2 freelance gigs and a part-time job at Starbucks, making my favorite drinks of course and I’m also taking a fashion design class at a community college. As well I’m also in the works of starting my own consulting business, later this year. I guess you could say, that I’m back to being productive!

Honestly I am in a much better place mentally, and spiritually, not just because of the blessings, but because of how I’ve been handling life lately. I’m working on not being so uptight and wanting to be in control so much, and just learning to understand God’s purpose for my life.

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Anyway, I was so happy that eShakti reached out to me again, I seriously love everything that they stand for-“Real Clothes for Real Women”. With eShakti, you can custom design your clothes based on your measurements along with adding other features, such as pockets, shorter or longer hems, etc. My measurements looked like this:

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So if you have the ability to take your own measurements, or need someone to do it for you, it’s pretty easy to plug them in and save to your account with them. I chose this dress because it’s perfect for the spring season, it’s the perfect length for me, as I’m 5’5, which is pretty average height.

I also adore the off-the shoulder and lace up details, that’s what really attracted me to choose this dress! I can dress it up with heels or dress it down with some cute and comfy sandals.

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Style Details:

Dress- eShakti (it’s on sale now!)

Shoes- Shu Deal

Necklace- Burlington

Well that’s all for now, I promise to keep the content coming consistently, as I’m getting back on track with my life. Have a great day!

XOXO Spookieloo!

 

“The Prodigal Experience”

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Have you ever experienced a time where you felt lost and confused? I’m sure we have all gone through times of confusion about who we are and what our purpose is. Yesterday I had thought-provoking conversation with a family friend, that inspired me to write this post. Our conversation was about how I chose to come back home with my family, to figure out my life and to feeling like a failure because of that.

See, before moving back home to Dallas, I was in living independently in Houston; I had graduated, and ended up getting a job that I thought was for me, but soon found out that it wasn’t. The company let me go, and I of course wanted to know why because I thought that I was doing my very best…

I was there for exactly a month, and honestly felt like I didn’t belong, I wasn’t sure of my responsibilities at all. I thought that I was just being irrational, so I pushed those thoughts out and tried to keep the best attitude about my new position. The day I got fired was already crap, and I worked a full day *rolls eyes*. I was called into the conference room and let go within 10 minutes. I cried, I mean ugly cried in front of someone who possibly could have cared less about my well-being. I cried because I knew that I couldn’t fight what wasn’t meant for me anymore; it was time for me to go back home and re-access my life.

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My “Prodigal” experience, stems from a biblical story, The Prodigal Son, in which one of the younger sons has to return home after using up all of his inheritance. The father openly embraces and celebrates his son’s return, as he was “lost” and is now “found”. I didn’t have the inheritance to blow, but I did have to return home to get back to my purpose, to get myself together. As I’ve discussed in previous posts, you have to focus on your own path, what’s meant for you, is ONLY FOR YOU.

The conversation that I had with my family friend stuck with me because I knew in my heart of what I was capable of. My friend’s reassuring words, spoke life into me, so much that I am confident in God’s plan for my life. I am not exactly sure of what’s to come, but I am expecting great things. I’ve already been blessed in ways I couldn’t imagine and 2016 isn’t over! Won’t he do it!

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I’m completely open to goodness and the blessings that are prepared for me. I pray that you received something good from this post and that 2017 is good to you.

Thanks for reading loves!

Resisting the Urge to Conform

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Ever since I started dressing myself at the tender age of 7 years old, I have never matched, in fact I would always purposely mismatch my clothes to express how different I was. I didn’t understand the importance of doing that, until now. In a society where trends define who some people are, it’s difficult sometimes to remain, well different. Lately, I have been thinking how I want to live my life. especially since I’m about to graduate college in May. It’s so easy to just want to conform and do what everyone else does, but is that any fun? Nah. I have made my mind up that I’m going to live my the way I see it; no more saying yes to everyone’s request, no more confusing being busy with living a productive life and certainly no more comparing my body to others. I take this approach to my style as well, I like to think that the younger Jasmine remained true to her style, and that makes me smile from ear to ear. I have never dressed to get validation from other people, I’ve always dressed according to what I felt was right within myself. The ripped jeans I have on, are my favorite, I got them from New York & Company a couple years and later decided to cut them up. And those bright shoes? I’ve had my eye on them, they meshed perfectly with this edgy, casual look.

Anyway, there was this book I read last year called You are a Badass: How to stop Doubting your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life,”  that woke me up to how I approached life. One quote that stuck with me was that “Our subconscious mind, on the other hand, is the non-analytical part of our brain that’s fully developed the moment we arrive here on earth.” That’s how I want to live my life, I’m usually overthinking something and that is not a healthy way to go about living life. I want to embrace where I am in life, even though I am not certain of where I’ll end up next, I will not conform to that way of thinking anymore.

Thanks for reading loves.

Style Details:

Ripped Skinny Jeans- New York & Company

Olive Green Sweatshirt- Forever 21 Plus

Neon Colored New Balances- Journey’s

Gold Rope Necklace Chain- Fresh Kinks

Cheetah Print Scarf- Charlotte Russe

Gradient Round Sunglasses- Forever 21

Photography by- It’s Sofia Emm

Hey, Big Sexy!

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I remember one day I was walking down the street, minding my own business, when all of a sudden some man yelled out “Hey big sexy! I see yah!” I kept walking and rolled my eyes in irritation. Why was this grown man yelling at me across the street? I was in my own world, doing me, I didn’t need anyone’s input on my appearance…

Lately I’ve been thinking about embracing my definition of sexy, whenever I see hear or see the word, it’s usually associated with people who don’t look like me. I never thought of myself as being sexy, it’s not the first thing that comes to mind when describing my style. The mere thought of it is daunting, and forces me to be vulnerable which is something I never do.  Embracing my femininity at this point in my life is important, I’m slowly becoming who I was meant to be. I personally don’t believe you have to show off your whole body to be “sexy” but I do love adding subtle touches, such as the black tights to my tomboy style.

Now that I’m 23 and a little more well versed in life, it’s become easier to accept my body for what it is at this moment. I have grown to love the rolls on my back, my dimpled thighs and my not-so-flat stomach. Although I still don’t like it when guys yell “Hey big sexy” or anything else, I also don’t cringe as much when I hear it.

What’s your definition of sexy?

Style Details: 

36 Jersey- H&M “Divided Men”

Black Boots- Call it Spring

Blue Cuff- H&M

Control Top Black Tights- Walmart

Mirrored Cat Eye Sunglasses- Forever 21

Styled by Mikayla Berry (Sister)

Photo Credit: It’s Sofia Emm Photography 

Classic Tips for the Curvy Girl

Getting dressed for the day can be a total struggle. Sometimes we all just have “those days:” When nothing seems to lay right, when every color seems to wash out your skintone, when even trusty favorites fail you. But that’s no reason to give up. We all have days that it seems the fashion gods are working diligently against us. Although it’s difficult to overcome the discouragement set in place by many outfits gone wrong, there is a glimmer of hope to be had.

Do you ever wonder how fashion stylists are so quick to piece together a figure-flattering outfit for their clients with no signs of hardship? Sure, they’re experts in the field, but there is also one other important factor in their process. They know what they’re looking for. For each body type, there is a tried-and-true set of style rules sure to work in just about every situation. And after researching what some of these tips are for plus-size fashion, I’ve found my own set of “rules” to keep in mind while dressing for just about any occasion.

Here’s what I learned:

Find your shape. Chances are you’re aware that different women are categorized within different “shape” groups. To name some of the most common: There are the apples, who carry most of their weight around their midsection; there are the pears, who are widest at the hips; and there are the hourglass figures, featuring a defined waist and an equal breast-to-hip ratio. Once you determine your shape, it becomes much easier to dress in a way that accentuates your strongest assets and mask those you’re self-conscious about. I like this simple guide on WhoWhatWear for finding your shape in a couple simple steps.

Use tailored pieces to your advantage. Some women favor baggier clothing as opposed to skin-tight options. If this is your preferred style of dressing, consider bringing shape to your outfit with tailored add-ons. Smart pieces like blazers and structured coats bring new lines to otherwise shapeless garments. And instead of the fabric clinging to your body, your figure is given a silhouette with the toppers you choose. Street style photos are great for browsing unconventional clothes pairings that inspire. Lyst’s articles usually include street style pictures that can be used to imagine your own next outfit pairing.

Loud accessories are your friend. There’s no sense in hiding behind your clothing. Plus-size fashion has come an incredibly long way, and now more than ever, loud and proud styles are the ideal statement in the curvy girl world. Being proud of your shapely figure is the first step to rocking a gorgeous new outfit.

The next step is to dress strategically. On the topic of accessories,  Marie Claire gives a great point, “A showstopping necklace draws the eye up—ideal for balancing out your skinny jeans, white trousers, or patterned pants.” Using bright jewelry, scarves and shoes are all tactics for bringing bold, flattering style to your outfit, breaking up the colors and providing different focal points.

Tailored Vests are Classics!

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Maxi Dresses are my Go-To’s

This is a guest post by Janine Collins, a freelance fashion writer currently residing in Nashville, TN. When she’s not spending time with her boyfriend or researching for her next piece, she enjoys creating new recipes and going on runs with her dog Charlie.

Thanks for reading!

 

 

 

Bra Fitting Adventures w/ Livi Rae Lingerie!

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This past week, I had the pleasure of experiencing a true bra fitting session, with Houston’s Livi Rae Lingerie Rep, Alicia Waiters. Now in my past bra experiences, I never took the time and effort to get fitted (I know that sucks, right?!) because I wasn’t truly educated on the anatomy of bras and our breasts. Your undergarments as a whole, can make or break your outfit, whether you’re at work or going out for the night. I learned through my bra fit session, that the right fit gives you more confidence in your posture and how you feel in your clothes. Who doesn’t want to feel confident everyday in their clothes?!

How the session works:

  • Book your appointment w/ a mobile bra fitter
  • They can come to you or you can go to them
  • The certified bra fitter brings 2 suitcases full of all types of bras
  • Assessment of your bra size and what types you need (based on lifestyle)
  • Try on the bras you like
  • Pick and buy the one(s) you need
  • Keep in contact with your bra fitter

As a woman of size, I can’t wear the average bra so having someone more knowledgeable of what I need helps a lot! I was sized at either 38 DDD or 40 DD, I wasn’t in the wrong size but my current bras needed to go. With my busy schedule and always moving around, it’s good to keep 3-4 bras in rotation. Below are the 4 bras I tried on; the top is the name of the bra and the bottom is the style.

Livi Rae Lingerie also provides an extensive knowledge of how to put on a bra:

  • Put in on from the side so you don’t stretch out the fabric
  • Bend at the waist when putting it on, so that your breasts are fully in the cup
  • As for washing your bras:
    • Hand wash only
    • Use a gentle wash or Livi Rae’s (1-2x a week)
    • Lay flat to dry on a towel

Following these steps will ensure long-lasting bras and proper fit! If you want to get fitted, be sure to contact your local fitter at Liviraelingerie.com !

Thanks for reading!

 

I ended up buying this one, lifts me up and is a great t-shirt bra!

I ended up buying this one, lifts me up and is a great t-shirt bra!

 

Also a great "Everyday Bra", it smooth's texture minimizes you and has "super support!"

Also a great “Everyday Bra”, it smooth’s texture minimizes you and has “super support!”

 

A great bra for nice blouses, wanting to feel sexy and has "maximum support"

 

The "Yassss!" Bra, this bra provides support and sexiness at the same time. Can also be worn as a t-shirt bra b/c lace and seams can't be seen!

The “Yassss!” Bra, this bra provides support and sexiness at the same time. Can also be worn as a t-shirt bra b/c the lace and seams can’t be seen!