The Art of Gratefulness

It’s the beginning of the week, and as we all head back to work, school, etc let’s practice gratefulness. Yes I know the world is overwhelming at times, but for some reason reflecting on what you’re grateful for, makes life just a little bit better. Lately I’ve made it a point to say out loud or write down 3 things I am grateful for, this helps calms my anxiety and keeps me from comparing my life to others.

Here are three things that I’m grateful for:

1. The ability to cherish the present moment

How often do we really stop to “smell the roses”? The ability to be present in wherever you are in life, is an amazing gift. Just being present wherever you are, allows you to be just you and only you. When you give yourself a break from worrying about the future, to just stop and think about what you’re grateful for, you open yourself up for amazing, good energy. Everyone wants good energy right?

So do what’s on your heart, date that guy, wear that crushed velvet dress, or travel to that country you’ve always wanted to go to. Be present and go for it.

2. My Amazing Support System

 

Sometimes my thoughts get to me, and I forget how amazing my support system is. To everyone that has helped me level up in my life, thank you! I honestly would not be at this point, if it we’re not for my support system. I am truly grateful for those who take time out of their day to check on me, send me crazy memes or refer business opportunities to me. THANK YOU!

There is nothing more valuable than having a strong support system, consisting of friends and family. In their own special way, each person has helped me develop into who I am now. And I like to think that I’m pretty phenomenal! I challenge you to look at those around you, and thank them if they have helped you at any point in your life. If you can, just call them, take them to lunch or send a thank you note.

 

3. My Ability to Adapt Anywhere

 

In my 25 years of life, I’ve seen some things, experienced some great and not-so-great moments, but I’m still here; present as ever. I am grateful for everything that I have experienced so far, because these experiences have shaped and molded me into a resilient woman. I know wherever I go in life, I’m going to be great. Although I’ve gone through some tough years lately, I am still rockin and rollin honey. Fear rarely resides wherever I am, I know I can adapt to any situation and environment.

________________________________________________

What I hoped you gained from this post, is to stop for a moment and really think about where you are in life. Whether you’re in a good or bad spot, be grateful for that shit! I mean it! I know when we’re going through tough times, it’s hard to be grateful, but you have to trust me on this one.

This week, I want you all to make it a point to write down or say out loud, three things you’re grateful for. You can share this with someone you trust or keep it to yourself, just express to the universe that you are grateful.

 

 

 

 

Well that’s all for now lovelies! Remember to be grateful this week and thank you for reading!

Style Details:

Dress

Shoes

Sunglasses

 

Advertisements

Self-Care with Spookieloo

Self Care in the midst of bullshittery

 

Hey lovlies! How’s everyone doing today? I hope you all are doing well, because you’re in for a treat with today’s post. I want to engage with you all starting today 8/16/16 through 8/23/16 on how important self-care is, especially if you’re having a hard time navigating life right now. Normally I’m pretty private about my personal life, but in the past couple of weeks I’ve been through an emotional rollercoaster (could be early PMS lol) and I’m tired of always feeling like my emotions don’t matter or that they’re not valid. I’m sure you’ve been there before, it feels like life is just smacking you up and down with no remorse huh?

*******************

This past weekend I went on a date that I thought would be something to remember, and boy was it! Basically the date I went on ended up with me being stranded by the guy that I was a on a date with, he left while I went to the restroom to freshen up. I came back, he was gone, ghost, left without a trace. I texted him, “Hey, you ok?” No reply. So I’m waiting, thinking and then finally came to the conclusion 30 minutes later, that this mofo left my ass (lol I can laugh now thank goodness), so I called and texted several more times, nothin boo. Embarrassed, hurt and angry, I sat there another 20 minutes in shock that this happened, I mean who does that? I eventually and begrudgingly called for an Uber ride, that was the longest and saddest drive I have ever endured.

Anyway fast forward to now, the guy eventually texted me back after I summoned my friends to bug his phone a little (lol), of course he was PISSED that I had something to say after what HE did. *Insert confused look* The conversation lasted about ten minutes, he really tried to hurt me, cut me down because I wanted to know why he would do that. When he said I had “bad intuition” and that he was “miserable” during the date, all I could do was shake my head. None of what he was said was true, which brings me to the point of this post: People’s hurtful words; well hurt, but they don’t have to for long.   

With the amount of frustration that I’ve been feeling towards life in general, and then this tragedy of a date happening, my emotions and self-confidence were shot down a few notches. I can be honest and say that shit hurt, but I engaged in some self-care activities to lift myself back up and will continue to for the rest of this week. Will you join me? Let’s look below!

Day1- Rest, listen to light music and clear your thoughts (2)

 

I know that was a wild story, but I wanted to share this with you all because it’s important that we bounce back from hurtful words, especially when we know that they’re not true. My method is not the cure all for frustration, but it’s a start in a healthier direction, towards a stronger mindset. Please know and understand that your emotions and feelings are valid, you’re not crazy boo, you got this. I got this.

If you decided to join me today on this self-care journey, remember to use #spookieloosselfcare, so we can help each other out. Well, that’s all for now, enjoy the rest of your day!

xoxo,

Jazz

 

Losing it: Why I want to be a Healthy Fat Woman

Hey yall, yes you read that title right, let’s chat about this idea of body shaming, which is getting on my damn nerves. About two weeks ago I saw Ashley Graham, plus-size super model, get ridiculed for “losing too much weight” on her Instagram, after reading comments of her followers saying that she “wasn’t the plus-size model they once knew” and how she is betraying everyone by being an active healthy woman, this led me to think about my issues with weight. *Cue the dramatic music*, I want to lose weight and I’m actually working towards losing 20-30lbs to get my health on track and to fit back into favorite booty shorts (I can’t zip those damn things up anymore lol).

13741121_232103193854937_1515173686_n

 

But back to Ashley, I’ve observed some of the plus-size community bash these models for losing weight, especially when they become mainstream. I understand both sides of this argument but at the same time I’m irritated that plus-size women are body shaming each other because someone decides to lose weight or get fit and healthy. Fat women are constantly being shamed for their bodies, so what sense does it make to shame another fellow plus ally? Yall, let this lady live her life please!

In regards to my own body, I’ve been wrestling with this idea that if I choose to decide to lose weight and get healthier, I’d lose my following and possibly be shamed for wanting change my body. I’m wanting to change my health, because I want to live as long as I can without health issues interrupting me living my life to the fullest. My family has a long line of health issues in relation to being overweight, but they have all changed their lifestyles and now live fulfilling, healthy lives. Now I’m not saying that you have to be a certain size to enjoy life at all, I’m saying that this is my decision, and plus I can’t part away from my favorite blue jean booty shorts right now. I love my curves and personally believe you can have a healthy body with them, call me crazy but I want to be a healthy fat woman.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my body and all that it can do, I appreciate every roll, my big thighs and not-so-flat tummy. Is it so wrong to want to get back into being more active and healthy? I’d like to walk up and down stairs without getting out of breath and light headed, or get back to doing my favorite soccer drills without feeling like I’m going to pass out within 5 minutes. It’s evident that no matter what anyone does with their body, that everyone won’t be pleased by your decision to change it, but does it matter? No it doesn’t matter to me anymore, because at the end of the day it’s my body and I live in it, your opinion about Ashley Graham doesn’t stop her from living her life and neither will I. Stop body shaming.

I love a cute work out set!

I love a cute work out set!

My hope for this post was to open up the dialogue on how society, including the plus-size community, engages in constant shaming of people’s bodies, there’s already enough crap going on in the world, so lets chill out, ok?

As always, I appreciate you reading, let me know your thoughts on this subject and don’t forget to share, thanks!

-Spookieloo

 

Resisting the Urge to Conform

DSC_0619

DSC_0611

DSC_0607

DSC_0622
DSC_0631

DSC_0635

DSC_0626

DSC_0670

 

Ever since I started dressing myself at the tender age of 7 years old, I have never matched, in fact I would always purposely mismatch my clothes to express how different I was. I didn’t understand the importance of doing that, until now. In a society where trends define who some people are, it’s difficult sometimes to remain, well different. Lately, I have been thinking how I want to live my life. especially since I’m about to graduate college in May. It’s so easy to just want to conform and do what everyone else does, but is that any fun? Nah. I have made my mind up that I’m going to live my the way I see it; no more saying yes to everyone’s request, no more confusing being busy with living a productive life and certainly no more comparing my body to others. I take this approach to my style as well, I like to think that the younger Jasmine remained true to her style, and that makes me smile from ear to ear. I have never dressed to get validation from other people, I’ve always dressed according to what I felt was right within myself. The ripped jeans I have on, are my favorite, I got them from New York & Company a couple years and later decided to cut them up. And those bright shoes? I’ve had my eye on them, they meshed perfectly with this edgy, casual look.

Anyway, there was this book I read last year called You are a Badass: How to stop Doubting your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life,”  that woke me up to how I approached life. One quote that stuck with me was that “Our subconscious mind, on the other hand, is the non-analytical part of our brain that’s fully developed the moment we arrive here on earth.” That’s how I want to live my life, I’m usually overthinking something and that is not a healthy way to go about living life. I want to embrace where I am in life, even though I am not certain of where I’ll end up next, I will not conform to that way of thinking anymore.

Thanks for reading loves.

Style Details:

Ripped Skinny Jeans- New York & Company

Olive Green Sweatshirt- Forever 21 Plus

Neon Colored New Balances- Journey’s

Gold Rope Necklace Chain- Fresh Kinks

Cheetah Print Scarf- Charlotte Russe

Gradient Round Sunglasses- Forever 21

Photography by- It’s Sofia Emm

Bra Fitting Adventures w/ Livi Rae Lingerie!

logo-19d30dde6ff26fd2105fb3abee75bee8

This past week, I had the pleasure of experiencing a true bra fitting session, with Houston’s Livi Rae Lingerie Rep, Alicia Waiters. Now in my past bra experiences, I never took the time and effort to get fitted (I know that sucks, right?!) because I wasn’t truly educated on the anatomy of bras and our breasts. Your undergarments as a whole, can make or break your outfit, whether you’re at work or going out for the night. I learned through my bra fit session, that the right fit gives you more confidence in your posture and how you feel in your clothes. Who doesn’t want to feel confident everyday in their clothes?!

How the session works:

  • Book your appointment w/ a mobile bra fitter
  • They can come to you or you can go to them
  • The certified bra fitter brings 2 suitcases full of all types of bras
  • Assessment of your bra size and what types you need (based on lifestyle)
  • Try on the bras you like
  • Pick and buy the one(s) you need
  • Keep in contact with your bra fitter

As a woman of size, I can’t wear the average bra so having someone more knowledgeable of what I need helps a lot! I was sized at either 38 DDD or 40 DD, I wasn’t in the wrong size but my current bras needed to go. With my busy schedule and always moving around, it’s good to keep 3-4 bras in rotation. Below are the 4 bras I tried on; the top is the name of the bra and the bottom is the style.

Livi Rae Lingerie also provides an extensive knowledge of how to put on a bra:

  • Put in on from the side so you don’t stretch out the fabric
  • Bend at the waist when putting it on, so that your breasts are fully in the cup
  • As for washing your bras:
    • Hand wash only
    • Use a gentle wash or Livi Rae’s (1-2x a week)
    • Lay flat to dry on a towel

Following these steps will ensure long-lasting bras and proper fit! If you want to get fitted, be sure to contact your local fitter at Liviraelingerie.com !

Thanks for reading!

 

I ended up buying this one, lifts me up and is a great t-shirt bra!

I ended up buying this one, lifts me up and is a great t-shirt bra!

 

Also a great "Everyday Bra", it smooth's texture minimizes you and has "super support!"

Also a great “Everyday Bra”, it smooth’s texture minimizes you and has “super support!”

 

A great bra for nice blouses, wanting to feel sexy and has "maximum support"

 

The "Yassss!" Bra, this bra provides support and sexiness at the same time. Can also be worn as a t-shirt bra b/c lace and seams can't be seen!

The “Yassss!” Bra, this bra provides support and sexiness at the same time. Can also be worn as a t-shirt bra b/c the lace and seams can’t be seen!

What are You Working For?

My 2015 Vision Board

My 2015 Vision Board

 

First of all I just want to say thank you to everyone who has continuously supported this blog, whether it’s by reading, commenting, sharing, etc. Thank you!

Today’s post is not centered solely on fashion, but more so my goals for the year and how I’m overcoming difficult situations in my life. Currently I am having to take a semester off from school and getting myself back on track. As well I’ll be back to working two jobs to take care of myself since I’m breaking from school. Today I also found out that there was a death in my family and I was very close to this person, so all of this “stuff” piling up, is becoming tough. This is life and I’m living it, whether it’s good or bad. Life tends to throw certain situations at you, and it’s ultimately how you react, that will get you where you need to be

With the creation of my vision board, I had been putting it off for several months because I had no idea what goals I wanted to accomplish. I’m honestly glad I took this time to be intentional about it, because it’s something I look at everyday. The board was in my room at first, but now I like it by my door so that way I see what I’m working for everyday. And that brings me to ask you all, what are you working for? What drives you to continue with your day? As I’m going through these obstacles, I am having to realign my goals and life so that all this work makes sense. When life gets tough, do you believe you can be victorious or do you shrink in fear? This has been me for a while now and I’m working every day to break this mindset of being fearful, especially of failure. When I got the news that I would not be able to continue school this semester and graduate on time, I felt defeated and almost gave up hope. I believe that wanting and working for success comes at a price and that means going through hard times. I won’t quit though. This literally is a temporary road block, that I know I will overcome.

The timing was perfect for me finishing my vision board, although everything seemed like it was going terribly wrong, I was still able to see the importance of what I wanted my life to be like and how I was going to get there. I took some time to cry and sit around, but my spirit, friends and family won’t allow that for too long! I’m glad I took my time with this as I plan to accomplish everything on that board.

This is my challenge to you, if you’re feeling confused about life at any point, create a vision board! By doing this, you’re setting yourself up for greatness and owning that you will achieve your goals. I’ve come to the realization that if you want happiness, you have to take full responsibility of that.

So with that being said I’d like to share some goals of mine!

1.) Graduate college this year

2.) Become a known Plus Size Fashion Blogger

3.) Buy a couch and table

4.) Take a weekend trip to New York and explore, eat and be merry

I am going to utilize this time to refine myself and become stronger, I choose to believe that there is more greatness to come despite these hard times.

*****************************

 

And if you’re wondering why I have “Prince” on my board, it’s because of his “doesn’t take sh*t attitude”, nothing seems to faze him and I want to embody that attitude more!

Alright lovelies, I hope this post has been helpful as it has been for me. Believe in self care and don’t be fearful of just living, embrace wherever you are in life.

If you make a vision board, I want to see!

Levels

Levels.

"Classic Funk"

Enamored. Completely invested in myself and loving every inch of my body. Doing this shoot allowed me to tap into my inner “Diva”, but come to think of it I think I’ve always had this Diva attitude, it just took some growing up and living life, to see it come into fruition. I was that quiet, shy, head-in-a-book girl, and I still am… But I have levels now, levels in which I am 100% into dressing the state of my body now.

Classc Funk

This particular outfit is a part my classic/funk style, which embraces some classic pieces (The White Button Down) yet adds a twist of funk (My Head wrap and Platform shoes). You will definitely get all the looks in this style. And here is where I encourage you, at any size, to embrace and celebrate your body. Take a good look at who you are now and remember the levels you have gained in life (new jobs, weight gain/loss, new relationship, etc.). Use these moments in life to embrace your amazing style and show yourself some love; damn it you deserve it.

***********************************

At this point in my life, I am in love with what my body has become and what it has endured. My body has been through some amazing and crazy things, but it’s still here and more beautiful than ever, this is why I chose this specific style to show it off. What I’m doing here, is promoting self-love and body acceptance. Life is too precious and amazing to live it shaming that beautiful, immaculate structure; your body.

I leave you with this: Love who you are now, it will lead into a better life experience for you later.

-Jazz

Outfit Details:

The White Button Down- Value Village Thrift Store

Blue Jeans- Forever 21

Platform Shoes- Forever 21

Head Wrap- The Ultimate Dressing Room

Make Up- Gia Antoinette

Photographer- Kahiah Polidore