The “Strong Black Woman”

“The Prodigal Experience”

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Have you ever experienced a time where you felt lost and confused? I’m sure we have all gone through times of confusion about who we are and what our purpose is. Yesterday I had thought-provoking conversation with a family friend, that inspired me to write this post. Our conversation was about how I chose to come back home with my family, to figure out my life and to feeling like a failure because of that.

See, before moving back home to Dallas, I was in living independently in Houston; I had graduated, and ended up getting a job that I thought was for me, but soon found out that it wasn’t. The company let me go, and I of course wanted to know why because I thought that I was doing my very best…

I was there for exactly a month, and honestly felt like I didn’t belong, I wasn’t sure of my responsibilities at all. I thought that I was just being irrational, so I pushed those thoughts out and tried to keep the best attitude about my new position. The day I got fired was already crap, and I worked a full day *rolls eyes*. I was called into the conference room and let go within 10 minutes. I cried, I mean ugly cried in front of someone who possibly could have cared less about my well-being. I cried because I knew that I couldn’t fight what wasn’t meant for me anymore; it was time for me to go back home and re-access my life.

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My “Prodigal” experience, stems from a biblical story, The Prodigal Son, in which one of the younger sons has to return home after using up all of his inheritance. The father openly embraces and celebrates his son’s return, as he was “lost” and is now “found”. I didn’t have the inheritance to blow, but I did have to return home to get back to my purpose, to get myself together. As I’ve discussed in previous posts, you have to focus on your own path, what’s meant for you, is ONLY FOR YOU.

The conversation that I had with my family friend stuck with me because I knew in my heart of what I was capable of. My friend’s reassuring words, spoke life into me, so much that I am confident in God’s plan for my life. I am not exactly sure of what’s to come, but I am expecting great things. I’ve already been blessed in ways I couldn’t imagine and 2016 isn’t over! Won’t he do it!

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I’m completely open to goodness and the blessings that are prepared for me. I pray that you received something good from this post and that 2017 is good to you.

Thanks for reading loves!

Self-Care with Spookieloo

Self Care in the midst of bullshittery

 

Hey lovlies! How’s everyone doing today? I hope you all are doing well, because you’re in for a treat with today’s post. I want to engage with you all starting today 8/16/16 through 8/23/16 on how important self-care is, especially if you’re having a hard time navigating life right now. Normally I’m pretty private about my personal life, but in the past couple of weeks I’ve been through an emotional rollercoaster (could be early PMS lol) and I’m tired of always feeling like my emotions don’t matter or that they’re not valid. I’m sure you’ve been there before, it feels like life is just smacking you up and down with no remorse huh?

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This past weekend I went on a date that I thought would be something to remember, and boy was it! Basically the date I went on ended up with me being stranded by the guy that I was a on a date with, he left while I went to the restroom to freshen up. I came back, he was gone, ghost, left without a trace. I texted him, “Hey, you ok?” No reply. So I’m waiting, thinking and then finally came to the conclusion 30 minutes later, that this mofo left my ass (lol I can laugh now thank goodness), so I called and texted several more times, nothin boo. Embarrassed, hurt and angry, I sat there another 20 minutes in shock that this happened, I mean who does that? I eventually and begrudgingly called for an Uber ride, that was the longest and saddest drive I have ever endured.

Anyway fast forward to now, the guy eventually texted me back after I summoned my friends to bug his phone a little (lol), of course he was PISSED that I had something to say after what HE did. *Insert confused look* The conversation lasted about ten minutes, he really tried to hurt me, cut me down because I wanted to know why he would do that. When he said I had “bad intuition” and that he was “miserable” during the date, all I could do was shake my head. None of what he was said was true, which brings me to the point of this post: People’s hurtful words; well hurt, but they don’t have to for long.   

With the amount of frustration that I’ve been feeling towards life in general, and then this tragedy of a date happening, my emotions and self-confidence were shot down a few notches. I can be honest and say that shit hurt, but I engaged in some self-care activities to lift myself back up and will continue to for the rest of this week. Will you join me? Let’s look below!

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I know that was a wild story, but I wanted to share this with you all because it’s important that we bounce back from hurtful words, especially when we know that they’re not true. My method is not the cure all for frustration, but it’s a start in a healthier direction, towards a stronger mindset. Please know and understand that your emotions and feelings are valid, you’re not crazy boo, you got this. I got this.

If you decided to join me today on this self-care journey, remember to use #spookieloosselfcare, so we can help each other out. Well, that’s all for now, enjoy the rest of your day!

xoxo,

Jazz

 

Losing it: Why I want to be a Healthy Fat Woman

Hey yall, yes you read that title right, let’s chat about this idea of body shaming, which is getting on my damn nerves. About two weeks ago I saw Ashley Graham, plus-size super model, get ridiculed for “losing too much weight” on her Instagram, after reading comments of her followers saying that she “wasn’t the plus-size model they once knew” and how she is betraying everyone by being an active healthy woman, this led me to think about my issues with weight. *Cue the dramatic music*, I want to lose weight and I’m actually working towards losing 20-30lbs to get my health on track and to fit back into favorite booty shorts (I can’t zip those damn things up anymore lol).

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But back to Ashley, I’ve observed some of the plus-size community bash these models for losing weight, especially when they become mainstream. I understand both sides of this argument but at the same time I’m irritated that plus-size women are body shaming each other because someone decides to lose weight or get fit and healthy. Fat women are constantly being shamed for their bodies, so what sense does it make to shame another fellow plus ally? Yall, let this lady live her life please!

In regards to my own body, I’ve been wrestling with this idea that if I choose to decide to lose weight and get healthier, I’d lose my following and possibly be shamed for wanting change my body. I’m wanting to change my health, because I want to live as long as I can without health issues interrupting me living my life to the fullest. My family has a long line of health issues in relation to being overweight, but they have all changed their lifestyles and now live fulfilling, healthy lives. Now I’m not saying that you have to be a certain size to enjoy life at all, I’m saying that this is my decision, and plus I can’t part away from my favorite blue jean booty shorts right now. I love my curves and personally believe you can have a healthy body with them, call me crazy but I want to be a healthy fat woman.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my body and all that it can do, I appreciate every roll, my big thighs and not-so-flat tummy. Is it so wrong to want to get back into being more active and healthy? I’d like to walk up and down stairs without getting out of breath and light headed, or get back to doing my favorite soccer drills without feeling like I’m going to pass out within 5 minutes. It’s evident that no matter what anyone does with their body, that everyone won’t be pleased by your decision to change it, but does it matter? No it doesn’t matter to me anymore, because at the end of the day it’s my body and I live in it, your opinion about Ashley Graham doesn’t stop her from living her life and neither will I. Stop body shaming.

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I love a cute work out set!

My hope for this post was to open up the dialogue on how society, including the plus-size community, engages in constant shaming of people’s bodies, there’s already enough crap going on in the world, so lets chill out, ok?

As always, I appreciate you reading, let me know your thoughts on this subject and don’t forget to share, thanks!

-Spookieloo

 

Spring Fling

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This whole embracing your sexy thing is new to me, especially since it’s an untapped concept  that I’ve never explored. I remember being younger, and cringing when spring/summer came, I’d hate wearing anything that was revealing and showed my body. I especially didn’t like showing my arms, they’re kind of flabby and have no definition, but I’m totally ok with that. Funny thing is, I used to never wear styles like this above; this body hugging dress, shows every curve of my body and arms. And those wedge strappy sandals, I would never think to wear them, until now.

At this very moment I’m opening myself up to embracing and wearing more styles like these, I feel and look damn good! My ass looks great, my thighs are juicier than ever and I’m cool with my arms being out and you should too, it’s your body and you should love every inch of it. Have a spring fling with yourself!

Enjoy your body!

xoxo

Style Details:

Stripe Cami Dress- Forever 21

Black Crisscross Bralett- Forever 21

Lace-Up Feaux Suede Wedges- Forver 21

Pale Pink Sunglasses- Fresh Kinks

Nude Clutch- Blue Elephant Boutique 

Photography- It’s Sofia Emm

Spotlighting Entrepreneurs Series: Chef K9 of Kick Back Texas

Good afternoon lovelies! I am happy to share with you all my new series of showcasing young entrepreneurs, who are working diligently towards their passions and breaking the mold of what a young millennial should look like. Seeing others my age and older pursue their dreams is inspiring and motivates me to continue on my path and to explore what I love doing. I hope you all enjoy this interview series, as I want to bring together entrepreneurs in uplifting each other to keep grinding!

Please welcome Local, Houston Chef and Caterer, Keenan Thomas of Kick Back Texas:

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JB: Tell us a little about yourself, any quirky hobbies? Where are you from?

KT: My name is Keenan Thomas, best known as Chef K9, I’m From Houston Texas , 24 years young with amazing energy and I’m very ambitious. I like to cook,  paint, freestyle amongst friends and come up with great ideas that seem too crazy to comprehend. A lot of people tell me I have an old soul. Mainly because when it comes to feeding friends and family, they can’t leave my house without eating, lol

 JB: How did you start cooking/catering?

KT: I started cooking at the age of nine. I was in my grandmother’s kitchen, she got me started early! My first dish I made was eggs and rice. She always would make that for breakfast, sometimes dinner. Eggs and rice got us through some tough times if you know what I’m saying. She showed me how to make it. Over time I began to add my own flair to it. By age twelve I started making own recipes. I pitched an idea to my uncle about a buffalo wing that was like no other. A turkey wing that was tossed with buffalo sauce. I gave it a name and everything, it was called Buff Buffalo Wings. My uncle gravitated to the idea and acted fast on it. That night he made it for the family and raved over it. Really I was just a kid playing with my food. Where I realized that this was something that I was destined to do, was in the 11th Grade around testing time. All the kids at the school would go to this sandwich shop in the morning for breakfast until the staff put an end to the kids walking off campus. So a bulb clicked in my head like I should do this. So I hopped on it. That day I told my fellow class mates that I would be having pre-ordered breakfast sandwiches for sell and collected my money. I had about 30 orders that one day spent about 20 dollars on the items and sold them for 3 dollars each. That was 40 dollars a day for the rest of the testing week. I profited almost 180 dollars that week off something I didn’t mind doing for free. That was how I first got into catering and knew this was something for me.

 

JB: What’s the meaning behind “Kick Back Texas”?

KT: Kick Back Texas is a way to bring like-minded people together through food, it’s a way that people can network among others knowing that there is enough for everyone to eat.  It’s a way that the business individual can have a good time. Kick Back Texas hosts creative events and creates the environment. We strive to make your experience a moment to remember. We make sure that your five senses are pleased. As well, Kick Back Texas makes sure that you hear good music, that you see the vision come alive, feel good vibrations and smell and taste great food. We’re a Foodies Six Flags!

 

JB: What are your future plans for your business? Do you plan to go global?

KT: I want to travel the world with my brand. My goal is for every house hold to be able to know what Kick Back Texas is. I would only like for this brand to be in Texas. I want it to be known globally but only located in here to make it more valuable, such as making a trip to Six Flags. My ultimate goal is to invest into other businesses and give back to people by opening up a creative center for kids, to expand their creativity. When I was a kid, I think it would have molded me better if I had a place to express my creative side. That’s what I want to give back to the youth.

 

JB: What inspires you on a daily basis to grow your business?

KT: To see people try my food for the first time and see the joy it brings them.

 

JB: Being an entrepreneur, what makes you different from your competitors? How do you approach competition?

KT: I’m my only competition. I’m competing with yesterday, trying to out do tomorrow. What makes me different as an entrepreneur, is that I don’t really focus on others and what they are doing, because my brand is a piece of art and if I get off track I lose focus of the vision.

 

JB:What’s your favorite meal to cook or eat?

KT: That’s a tough question, but if I had to say my favorite would either be shrimp and grits or eggs and rice. My favorite food type has to be Asian. I could eat it everyday!

 

JB:Now it’s your turn to say anything you would like, whether it’s advice, a favorite quote, etc.

KT: Perfect Your Recipe!

WARNING: All of these food pictures will make you hungry!

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As always, I hope you all enjoyed reading this post. If you’re looking to connect with Chef K9, please check out his Facebook and Instagram page to book your future catering needs!

Tapping into Your Sexy (Sponsored Post )

What if I were to tell you, that you’re sexy? How would you feel? Would you shy away from the compliment? I find myself often downplaying it when people compliment me on my looks. No one wants to ever seem vain, but I don’t think that’s the point. I never considered myself “sexy”, since most of the time I’d just see myself as the frumpy girl with bushy hair and glasses. I’m still that girl about 85% of the time, but lately I’ve been feeling “myself”. I don’t mean sexy in just what I’m wearing but in how I feel about me, how I walk with my head held high and do what makes me happy. I’m to the point where I have fully accepted my body. I’m in awe of what it looks like  sometimes; I love my rolls, large thighs, how I look in my clothes and my smile. There is nothing wrong with loving everything about yourself, I mean you have one body, so you might as well love it!

I’m more confident in my appearance than ever, because it pleases ME and I could care less of anyone’s opinion on what I should wear. With this positive attitude towards my self image, I was elated that 247 Jewelry Store reached out to me and sent clothes that I normally would shy away from. I especially loved how this 2 piece set complimented my shape and my butt looks amazing ! (lol) Both pieces can be worn with other styles, so the versatility is another bonus too.

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Lovelies, I want you to know that YOU can be sexy at any size and shape. Don’t allow these set beauty standards to take away your greatness.

Be YOU. Be BOLD. Be SEXY.

Thanks for reading!
Style Details:
Black and White 2 piece set: 247 Jewelry Store
Black Strappy heels: Agaci