Sorry Y’all, I’m not Bringing a Date home for the Holidays…

Hey everyone, it’s been 2 months since I’ve written anything or posted, but life happens of course, so I have to deal with it appropriately. Anyway I am coming to you all with my heart open and full of learning lessons, in regards to the dating world.

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You know that feeling in your gut, when you know something has gone awry? Or that you know when a relationship has fizzled out? That’s where I am at this moment, recognizing that my relationship has lost its passion and the warm feelings I once had, as well as his too…

I kept thinking to myself, do I need to share my dating story? Do I really need to let everyone in? And then I realized, this is isn’t for you, but for me. (But if it helps in any way, I’m happy that it does).

With dating this particular person, I learned what I did NOT want and what I DO want in a relationship. I never want to feel like I am not a priority to someone I’m dating ever again. I never want to settle with someone, knowing they aren’t right for me, just to say I’m in a relationship, I’d honestly rather be single and enjoy the wonders of life. Loneliness used to scare me and still does at some time, but I don’t want just anyone taking up meaningless space in my life, it’s too draining.

At times throughout dating this person, I would notice I would initiate most of the communication and do most of the “work” to keep this thing going. But I realized that I was the only one really into this relationship, and that my friends, is not a place where I wish my worst enemy would go. Plus it was a long distance relationship, and the only means of communication were calling each other on the phone or video chatting, texting too, but none of that was happening as much.

I expressed my concerns in an adult manner about how we don’t talk as much and what we should do to make it work, I guess he heard me, but wasn’t listening…at this point I waited around for as long as I could, but nothing changed, nothing progressed. I had decided I would break up with him, it took me a week to do it, and my stomach was in literal knots.

The break up didn’t go as horrible as I thought, but it felt like a relief, almost…I was perfectly content without communication with him, I felt like my old self again. What happened after we broke up, was that he started talking to me more, and initiated the conversation! How the hell does that happen? Why couldn’t he get it together while we were dating?

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I haven’t been in many relationships, but when it would go wrong or I’d get rejected, I would take it personal and believe it was all my fault. With growth and going through a couple awful dating experiences, I learned that I’m a FUCKING AMAZING WOMAN and that anyone I date, should be damned proud to be in my presence. (I just needed to vent that, it’s been in my spirit for the longest lol)

Anyway, let’s get back to focus, what I’ve learned in my experience with dating, is that you have to work at it daily, especially if you love someone. Saying you love them, is just the icing on the cake, you need to show them you care, learn who that person is, know their quirks, etc. Cultivate the relationship in order for it to grow and blossom into something great…

 

About a week and a half later, I found myself getting back together with him (big mistake) and nothing had change, he said he was getting better. In this instant, I realized you can say all you want, but where is the action? How are you going to show you’re actually doing better? And then I looked at myself, and knew this is not a relationship I wanted to be in, with empty promises and pretty lies. I honestly wanted to make it work for the sake of saying I was dating someone, and to bring a guy home for the holidays. But that’s not a good reason to be with someone, especially if they aren’t making an effort to be with you.

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During that time we had gotten back together, there was a chance for him to truly show he cared about me, it basically involved me being stuck in his same city, in a Greyhoud station with a 5 hour late bus. I told him the situation, and he seemed sympathetic towards this frustrating experience, but didn’t budge to come see me, only offering a dry ass “hope you get home safe” text. I knew for sure what place I held in his life, and it hurt, but thank God I was with my best friend and not truly alone. But to know the person you’re dating is in the same city, stuck in a dusty old Greyhound bus station and you don’t even bother to come see them, that was my big ass sign that I need to move on from this, whatever it was. And before you ask, “Well Jazz, was he busy doing something at the time?” Nope, he was home chillin…

 

I leave you with this last thought, don’t compromise your standards when dating someone. That person will eventually show you who they are, especially in sticky situations, I personally feel you will do all you can to make sure your mate is safe. I hate that I haven’t had many long-lasting relationships, especially when I feel like they’re the right one, and want to introduce them to my family and friends. But I refuse to bring someone around that can’t do the basic shit in a relationship, I can’t and I won’t. Until then, I’ll be single for a while, enjoying myself and embracing those that do love me, for me.

 

Remember to always take care of YOU first, good night loves.

xoxo,

Jazz

 

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Is the Side Hustle Right for You Series? Part 3: My Side Hustle as a Social Media Manager

 

Welcome back to my series on “Is the Side Hustle Right for You“! Before jumping in to Part 3, be sure to catch up on Parts 1 and 2, where I talk about how I got started and how I plan my content. I hope you’ve been enjoying this series so far!

Let’s get to it!

So you have this A-M-A-Z-I-N-G business or non-profit organization, that you put your heart and soul into, it’s starting to grow and you’re gaining more clients and volunteers by the day. Well do you have a plan of action to keep your business/nonprofit relevant? Do you have any other social media following other than your Facebook page? Are you engaging with the right audience to grow your brand? Do you have a strategic social media plan to gain an online following? Is there anyone on your team running your social media?

If you find it hard to answer these questions, or you’re unclear if you need social media at all, it’s probably time to start thinking about a plan of action. That’s why at Spookieloo’s Consulting, we’re all about educating big and small companies on the NEED for social media for their brand. Social media makes up 95 percent of interaction with businesses, so it’s vital to have that aspect of your business functioning 100%. “The referral marketing platform Ambassador found that 71 percent of consumers who have had a good social media service experience with a brand are likely to recommend it to others.”- Business2Community.com.

 

With that being said, I am confident that you understand the importance of implementing a social media plan, now let’s read how that process goes.

­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­At Spookieloo’s Consulting I create tailored, strategic social media plans, to reach your business goals. My process includes getting to know your business to studying and researching your industry.

  1. Wellness Check of Your Current Social Media

In order to create this strategic plan to get your social media booming, I take a week to analyze each social media platform, I look at the amount of followers you have, comments, how many likes and retweets you get, the amount of times you post and what times you post at as well. This wellness check allows me to figure out which route your brand needs to go, as far as social media marketing. This plan is typed out and sent to you via email, so that you we can discuss your goals and be on the same page of how we’re going to crush them!

  1. Prepare to be asked a lot of questions!

If someone is going to take over your social media accounts, manage them and engage with your online community, they will need to ask you questions…lots of questions. Such as:

  • Who are your loyal customers?
  • What are your best, tried and true selling points?
  • How do you communicate with your clients?
  • Where do you envision your brand/business in 5 years? 10 years?
  • What problems/issues are you solving?

These are questions you should be constantly thinking about, and if you’re not sure how to do that Spookieloo’s Consulting can help you figure that out along the way, I’m here to educate and develop your social media skills!

  1. Your Industry will be Studied and Researched

Whether you’re in the clothing, financial or basket weaving business, you better believe I will study and research all resources that are relative to your business. As well with my growing in-depth knowledge of social media, I will apply that knowledge to tailor a strategic social media plan, for your branding needs. The same plan that might work for someone else, probably won’t work for your brand, that’s why I take the appropriate time to research and plan. This process will involve some of your help as to where the best resources are that give information on your industry.

  1. Current and Up-to Date Social Media Practices will be Applied to your Brand

Social media is constantly evolving and your brand needs to always be aware of those changes; such as the algorithm of Facebook and Instagram, and how it can affect how many people will often see your business, or how implementing visually appealing photos will associate a certain feeling when potential customers see your brand. The science of social media is interesting and always evolving, be sure you’re always on top of these changes by hiring Jasmine Berry, of Spookieloo’s Consulting.

  1. Engagement and Analyzing of Your Competition Will Happen

Let’s face the facts: competition is everywhere, especially when wanting to get and maintain the attention of loyal and new followers, who are potential clients/customers. With the help of Spookieloo’s Consulting, I will study brands similar to yours and take note of what they’re doing successfully, such as how often they post and what their images look like. In order to be successful in anything, one must study their competition, to be the best. As well, engaging with other similar brands, such as commenting and sharing their information, helps grow your network of followers, assuming they will do the same for your brand.

  1. Don’t fix what ain’t Broken

What I mean by this, is to recognize what you’ve been doing well and to keep doing it, simple as that. Yes it is good to try new things and social media practices, but it’s also imperative that you stick to your niche, and continue to always make sure your product/service is always on a 100%. Social media is here to highlight and enhance your brand, it is the bridge that connects you and your audience. If your product and/or services aren’t clear, you need to solidify what you’re selling or providing, so that way your social media manager can amplify your AMAZINGNESS!

 

Now that you have a basic understanding of what a social media manager does, besides just posting to your accounts, are you ready to consult with one? If so fill out the quick questionnaire below and let’s get to work!

 

 

 

Series-Is the Side Hustle Right for You? Part 2: How I Plan and Schedule my Content

Welcome back to my series on “Is the Side Hustle Right for You“! Before jumping in to Part 2, I want to recap Part 1: How I Got Started for you.

Let’s get to it!

Last week I shared my journey on how my side hustle of social media management, came about. Through the connections I made back in Houston, I was blessed with the opportunity from a fellow blogger friend who told me about it. This time last year I had been laid off from my job and had to move back home to Dallas, with my parents.

Basically while I waited and applied for jobs, I worked for a local non-profit creating and managing their social media, and I’m still doing that  along with a few other clients!

This year so far has been a whirlwind of growth for my side hustle, I’m learning a lot and want you to learn with me on my side hustle journey!

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Series-Is the Side Hustle Right for You? Part 1: How I Got Started

In today’s workforce, being your “own boss”has become a more attractive way to live a quality filled life. There are now so many non-traditional career options, that it can sometimes be overwhelming to think about.

As a creative professional, I knew for awhile that I would eventually want to be my own boss, and that the work I produced, would positively impact my community. I honestly can’t stand the thought of working just to pay bills my whole life.

Although I am working a full-time job now, I still make it a point to schedule time to manage and grow my consulting side business. I’m 100% in this!

Now if you’re looking to create a side hustle for yourself and eventually turn it into a full blown career, then ask yourself, “Is the Side Hustle Right for Me?”

 

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The “Side Hustle” is the new macro-trend and millennials, like me are taking advantage of this opportunity. The majority of us work full-time jobs and work a side hustle or second job, to help us survive and develop skills necessary for our next opportunity. Everyone that I know, has that second job, because we eventually want to have the freedom of not being subjected to a cubicle our whole lives…

How I Got Started:

Moving back home to Dallas, due to being laid off from my job, I didn’t have a solid plan as to how I was going to bounce back. From September 2016 to May 2017, I was without a job and my unemployment checks were coming to an end.

I know I put in at least 30 applications daily, but still no luck. At this point I was sliding into that post-grad depression of not knowing how my life would end up, especially if I couldn’t find a job. Then one night I received a Facebook message from a blogger friend, checking on me. I was honest in expressing the frustration I felt at not having any luck, getting call backs for jobs. After listening to me, she told me about a connection she had in Dallas, that needed help managing their social media. It was a local non-profit called Carter’s House, that would give me first freelancing opportunity.

After connecting with the founder and establishing their social media needs, I found myself signing a contract! Even though I had never created and managed anyone’s content, other than my own, it was exciting to venture into this blessing.

With my previous blogging experience and creating my own brand, I was prepared to take this opportunity on. Fast forward to today, I am still working with Carter’s House and another client, while working my full-time job!

Managing the Side Hustle:

So why work a full-time job and work your side hustle? Isn’t that a lot of work? Yes, HELL YES! There are times where I ask myself, do I really love what I’m doing, and my answer is always yes, despite how tired I may be. Working a “9-5′” and then coming home to work on your own business, is tough and tiring, but rewarding because you are producing work that is yours, and for that you should be proud.

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In this side hustle journey, I have learned a lot, so much that I want to share with you what I’ve learned so far. In this 3-Part Series, I am going to share with you all my experience, on working full time while running a side business.

In the series “Is a Side Hustle Right for You?” I will share:

  • How I manage my clients and business operations
  • How I plan and schedule my content
  • How I charge my clients for my services

I hope sharing my journey in how I started my side business was helpful and encouraging, please be on the look out for Part 2: How to Operate and Organize Your Business, next week!

If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out to me, I’d love to help any way I can.

That’s all for now lovelies!

The Art of Gratefulness

It’s the beginning of the week, and as we all head back to work, school, etc let’s practice gratefulness. Yes I know the world is overwhelming at times, but for some reason reflecting on what you’re grateful for, makes life just a little bit better. Lately I’ve made it a point to say out loud or write down 3 things I am grateful for, this helps calms my anxiety and keeps me from comparing my life to others.

Here are three things that I’m grateful for:

1. The ability to cherish the present moment

How often do we really stop to “smell the roses”? The ability to be present in wherever you are in life, is an amazing gift. Just being present wherever you are, allows you to be just you and only you. When you give yourself a break from worrying about the future, to just stop and think about what you’re grateful for, you open yourself up for amazing, good energy. Everyone wants good energy right?

So do what’s on your heart, date that guy, wear that crushed velvet dress, or travel to that country you’ve always wanted to go to. Be present and go for it.

2. My Amazing Support System

 

Sometimes my thoughts get to me, and I forget how amazing my support system is. To everyone that has helped me level up in my life, thank you! I honestly would not be at this point, if it we’re not for my support system. I am truly grateful for those who take time out of their day to check on me, send me crazy memes or refer business opportunities to me. THANK YOU!

There is nothing more valuable than having a strong support system, consisting of friends and family. In their own special way, each person has helped me develop into who I am now. And I like to think that I’m pretty phenomenal! I challenge you to look at those around you, and thank them if they have helped you at any point in your life. If you can, just call them, take them to lunch or send a thank you note.

 

3. My Ability to Adapt Anywhere

 

In my 25 years of life, I’ve seen some things, experienced some great and not-so-great moments, but I’m still here; present as ever. I am grateful for everything that I have experienced so far, because these experiences have shaped and molded me into a resilient woman. I know wherever I go in life, I’m going to be great. Although I’ve gone through some tough years lately, I am still rockin and rollin honey. Fear rarely resides wherever I am, I know I can adapt to any situation and environment.

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What I hoped you gained from this post, is to stop for a moment and really think about where you are in life. Whether you’re in a good or bad spot, be grateful for that shit! I mean it! I know when we’re going through tough times, it’s hard to be grateful, but you have to trust me on this one.

This week, I want you all to make it a point to write down or say out loud, three things you’re grateful for. You can share this with someone you trust or keep it to yourself, just express to the universe that you are grateful.

 

 

 

 

Well that’s all for now lovelies! Remember to be grateful this week and thank you for reading!

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Casual Summer Slay with Rainbow Shops

Hey yall! Yes I know it’s been a minute since we’ve talked, life has been of course crazy; I’m working full time and running my side consulting business, so I’m pretty much busy all the time. That’s no excuse though to check in with you all! This past weekend I got the chance to explore more of my hometown Dallas,TX in one of my favorite areas, Deep Ellum. I love that every time I visit, I find something new, especially the murals.

 

 

And to make this weekend even better, I was also able to score these jeans for $10 at Rainbow Shops, and this super comfortable shirt (that I thought was a dress LOL, my ass said otherwise!) for $6 as well. I’ve been kind of obsessing over rose pink and metallic colors this summer, so it was only right I shared this cute fit with you. My style is pretty casual, I love any variation of blue jeans and a v-neck tshirt. Oh! And my shoes were only $7 from this awesome shoe store called Shu-Deal (LOL don’t ask myewhy they spell it like that, I just go for the cute and reasonably priced shoes)

 

 

If you’re ever in Dallas, take some time to visit Deep Ellum, there are so many cool places and murals to see!

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Thanks for reading loves, hope you enjoyed this style post! Have a great week!

 

Summer Accessories Product Review with Leather Glitter

Hey Loves!

How’s your week going so far? I hope well! Today I’m bringing you an awesome product review with Leather Glitter, a custom leather jewelry company, that makes the cutest accessories!

“Leather Glitter provides high quality handmade leather jewelry. All pieces are crafted from genuine cowhide and/or lambskin. Custom orders available!”

I am really excited to share this with you all, because summer is coming up meaning it’s time to shop for new and fun accessories! When I received the package it came in the cutest burlap, drawstring bag and brown tissue paper. I can definitely tell that love and passion were put into creating these beautiful pieces. Check out what I received complimentary, below!

 

 

Even my younger sister loved them! I let her try on these cute and simple black leather ones! Love the detail!

 

 

If you all are looking for ways to jazz up your accessories and support a small business please contact Leather Glitter here and follow them below on social media!

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Thanks for reading loves!