Self-Care with Spookieloo

Self Care in the midst of bullshittery


Hey lovlies! How’s everyone doing today? I hope you all are doing well, because you’re in for a treat with today’s post. I want to engage with you all starting today 8/16/16 through 8/23/16 on how important self-care is, especially if you’re having a hard time navigating life right now. Normally I’m pretty private about my personal life, but in the past couple of weeks I’ve been through an emotional rollercoaster (could be early PMS lol) and I’m tired of always feeling like my emotions don’t matter or that they’re not valid. I’m sure you’ve been there before, it feels like life is just smacking you up and down with no remorse huh?


This past weekend I went on a date that I thought would be something to remember, and boy was it! Basically the date I went on ended up with me being stranded by the guy that I was a on a date with, he left while I went to the restroom to freshen up. I came back, he was gone, ghost, left without a trace. I texted him, “Hey, you ok?” No reply. So I’m waiting, thinking and then finally came to the conclusion 30 minutes later, that this mofo left my ass (lol I can laugh now thank goodness), so I called and texted several more times, nothin boo. Embarrassed, hurt and angry, I sat there another 20 minutes in shock that this happened, I mean who does that? I eventually and begrudgingly called for an Uber ride, that was the longest and saddest drive I have ever endured.

Anyway fast forward to now, the guy eventually texted me back after I summoned my friends to bug his phone a little (lol), of course he was PISSED that I had something to say after what HE did. *Insert confused look* The conversation lasted about ten minutes, he really tried to hurt me, cut me down because I wanted to know why he would do that. When he said I had “bad intuition” and that he was “miserable” during the date, all I could do was shake my head. None of what he was said was true, which brings me to the point of this post: People’s hurtful words; well hurt, but they don’t have to for long.   

With the amount of frustration that I’ve been feeling towards life in general, and then this tragedy of a date happening, my emotions and self-confidence were shot down a few notches. I can be honest and say that shit hurt, but I engaged in some self-care activities to lift myself back up and will continue to for the rest of this week. Will you join me? Let’s look below!

Day1- Rest, listen to light music and clear your thoughts (2)


I know that was a wild story, but I wanted to share this with you all because it’s important that we bounce back from hurtful words, especially when we know that they’re not true. My method is not the cure all for frustration, but it’s a start in a healthier direction, towards a stronger mindset. Please know and understand that your emotions and feelings are valid, you’re not crazy boo, you got this. I got this.

If you decided to join me today on this self-care journey, remember to use #spookieloosselfcare, so we can help each other out. Well, that’s all for now, enjoy the rest of your day!





14 thoughts on “Self-Care with Spookieloo

  1. Aw, I’ve been where you are in your dating journey and I don’t miss those days! It sucks that most of us have to go through those times. Anger, hurt and more anger because you’re hurt is typically the process. I think the anger comes from the fact that you know you’re worth more. And you are. ❤


  2. Your self care plan is excellent! The best way to pick yourself up & dust yourself off.❤️ (The one redeeming thing about sucky dates is that you really get to clarify what you don’t want. And that is valuable.) Keep your head up lady! ✨


  3. What a jack a$$. Definitely his loss. Yes girl we could probably share horror stories of terrible dates. I love this self-care message. I agree, which is exactly what I’m doing right now, taking care of myself and not worrying about other people right now. Sometimes it’s good to be a little selfish and do things for yourself.


  4. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Nobody deserves all that. I’ve had my share of bad boyfriends and friends so I understand how you feel. Thank you for sharing this. You inspired me.


  5. Sorry you had to endure a date with such a jerk, but considering it a blessing in disguise that you didn’t waste any more time on a waste of time! Go ahead and dance your ass off alone! Way more fun!


  6. I can’t believe that! I am so sorry that happened to you. Noone deserves to be treated that way. Dating doesn’t mean that you will hit it off with everyone, but that doesn’t mean you act that way! WOW. You deserve so much better. You handled this so well and I love your tips!


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